Hello

[Guest 12]

Hi, 
Married here, in an em relationship with work colleague. Feeling jealousy so badly. She has a husband who is far more physically well put together than me. Silly really, I know.

[AbbieP71]

Hi, 
Married here, in an em relationship with work colleague. Feeling jealousy so badly. She has a husband who is far more physically well put together than me. Silly really, I know.

Welcome to TS! Great place to find support! Have you been in a EMR for very long ?

[Guest 12]

Welcome to TS! Great place to find support! Have you been in a EMR for very long ?

Thanks! It's not been long, I know that's not very specific but I'm a bit over-cautious at the moment. 
I'm presuming it's some sort of latent guilt that's fuelling my jealousy.

[AbbieP71]

Thanks! It's not been long, I know that's not very specific but I'm a bit over-cautious at the moment. 
I'm presuming it's some sort of latent guilt that's fuelling my jealousy.

No worries! It took me a long time to be specific about anything. Whatever you feel comfortable with sharing we are here for you. Do you think this is serious for the two of you?

[Guest 12]

No worries! It took me a long time to be specific about anything. Whatever you feel comfortable with sharing we are here for you. Do you think this is serious for the two of you?

I think it's more serious for me than her.

[AbbieP71]

I think it's more serious for me than her.

Have you discussed it at all?

[Guest 12]

Have you discussed it at all?

I hesitate as her H is always mentioning it to her which is part of many reasons why she is looking for love elsewhere. I've really fallen for her and don't want to lose her.

[Foreternity]

Welcome! I am the OM once a MM seeing MW for 4 years

Jealousy is a normal thing when we care for the person. Especially when you said you feel more invested than she is. Looks don't define the feelings we share in my opinion. I feel I'm more handsome than BH but he is also more "physically" out together than I am as you would say. 

Doesn't change the fact I make her laugh and we make amazing love often 

I look forward in exchanging information with you

[Guest 12]

Welcome! I am the OM once a MM seeing MW for 4 years

Jealousy is a normal thing when we care for the person. Especially when you said you feel more invested than she is. Looks don't define the feelings we share in my opinion. I feel I'm more handsome than BH but he is also more "physically" out together than I am as you would say. 

Doesn't change the fact I make her laugh and we make amazing love often 

I look forward in exchanging information with you

Thanks!

[Guest 12]

Thanks!

Yes, it took me by surprise, the jealousy. Going into an EMR it's a given that love/lust/attention is shared out between me and her H but I feel like I did when I was a teenager *lol*

[Foreternity]

I found the "competition" of her being M allowed me to go the extra mile and really try to please get more than ever if that makes sense

[Guest 12]

I found the "competition" of her being M allowed me to go the extra mile and really try to please get more than ever if that makes sense

Yes - absolutely! I feel the same. It certainly makes me go all in on shaping myself up and being the best I can be

[Foreternity]

Yes - absolutely! I feel the same. It certainly makes me go all in on shaping myself up and being the best I can be

It takes time. I've been seeing her for over 4 years with a rollercoaster of emotions. I personally don't think she will ever leave, seems she lacks the strength and courage tbh.

They fought badly allegedly on Father's Day but we shall see on his birthday this weekend them spend time together hahaha. What can I say? It's a vicious circle that we hate yet we are still here

[Guest 12]

It takes time. I've been seeing her for over 4 years with a rollercoaster of emotions. I personally don't think she will ever leave, seems she lacks the strength and courage tbh.

They fought badly allegedly on Father's Day but we shall see on his birthday this weekend them spend time together hahaha. What can I say? It's a vicious circle that we hate yet we are still here

Yes I sometimes fantasise about her leaving H but she's not mentioned anything about that sort of thing. We've not been seeing each other anything as long as you have though. I don't dare mention it, frankly

[Foreternity]

Yes I sometimes fantasise about her leaving H but she's not mentioned anything about that sort of thing. We've not been seeing each other anything as long as you have though. I don't dare mention it, frankly

She once said after the renewal of their mortgage. After that it was kind of I'm not sure my plans for the future. I always said I'd leave and I did, it took close to 2 years for XBW to give up but she did. 

I find the older your children are if you don't think about leaving you never will. They have had family vacations and a lot of stuff together so, at this point if come to terms she will stay. 

I just feel she doesn't have that strength to test the waters of the "unknown" 

How long have you guys been seeing eachother?

[Guest 12]

She once said after the renewal of their mortgage. After that it was kind of I'm not sure my plans for the future. I always said I'd leave and I did, it took close to 2 years for XBW to give up but she did. 

I find the older your children are if you don't think about leaving you never will. They have had family vacations and a lot of stuff together so, at this point if come to terms she will stay. 

I just feel she doesn't have that strength to test the waters of the "unknown" 

How long have you guys been seeing eachother?

That's tough Foreternity 

Good point about the older your children get the less likely you are to want to leave. 

We've been together for a bit, but as a newbie here I'm a little cautious about being more specific, for now at least

[Foreternity]

That's tough Foreternity 

Good point about the older your children get the less likely you are to want to leave. 

We've been together for a bit, but as a newbie here I'm a little cautious about being more specific, for now at least

Understandable. I assume your goal is to be together one day?

[Guest 12]

Understandable. I assume your goal is to be together one day?

That's certainly my feeling. I've really fallen for her. There are things keeping her from leaving H for now so I'm just taking it gently and giving her the space to say what she wants to do in the future at a time of her choosing.

[Foreternity]

Yeah though I asked her to leave and want her to. On her accord is the best scenario. When I left XBW it wasn't to be with MW which we weren't prepared for either

I was tired of hiding everything and also having MW feel I was lying about things. I wanted to breath and better myself for me and my kids and also be able to be in public with MW and not worry about family or friends seeing her and having awful thoughts about her

I'm in a much better place now for sure . Healthier inside and out